Some unlucky people are forced to face a very tough decision - divorce or a sexless marriage long into the future. This is a very sad state of affairs because it can really challenge our views of love and sex to such an extreme degree. We are told so often that sex is not the be all and end all of a relationship, and we often believe that very strongly, but we also know deep down that without sex a relationship is stretched to the very limit.

Many men and women faced with a sexless marriage do not look first for divorce as the love is often still there, but the intimacy is not. This is the crux of the problem that can take years sometimes to develop, and years more to sink in about how bad this actually is. Once the realisation hits that you seemingly cannot change this sexless situation then the full impact of what sort of a future this sexless marriage will look like tends to strike you.

This then spirals into thinking about options. To stay in a sexless marriage, or to divorce and try to find someone to have a more satisfying sexual relationship with. Or for some people to commit infidelity and try to get both which is HIGHLY discouraged as it only brings pain and suffering to everyone involved. There is of course another way which is better than all of them which is to fix your sexless marriage to return it to a better state of being. Lets look at the various options though in more detail.

 Divorce

• Pros - Allows both people to find partners more to their sexual tastes.
• Cons - Emotionally scarring, expensive, social stigma, hurtful if children are involved, no guarantee you are going to find anyone better, no turning back very final.

Staying In a Sexless Marriage

• Pros - Keeping the status quo, keeping non-sexual intimacy, shared history and familiarity, better financial outcomes.
• Cons - Sexual frustration, low self esteem, arguments and resentments piling up over time, temptations to cheat, depression.

Infidelity

• Pros - Relief of sexual frustration.
• Cons - Feelings of guilt, damage to your image of marriage, secrecy, potential to destroy marriage.

Fixing a Sexless Marriage

• Pros - Return of sexual fulfilment, return of intimacy and connection, better and happier relationship, boosted self esteem.
• Cons - Long term project, requires change of yourself to change your partner, requires good communication and hard work, requires a radical shift of thinking for many.

There is not right or wrong decision, but there certainly are better ones than others here. I hope this have given you soem food for through when it comes to divorce or a sexless marriage.